Thursday, September 30, 2010

Musings On Other has MOVED!

Hello, my Mayhem Misfits!!!

This is just a little message to let you know that Musings and Team Other have left the building...
.....We have left The Blogger....


 Change up your bookmarks, Lovelies! 
We have our own domain now.
We own our Otherness.

So please come visit our new home and read today's New Musings: A Revelatory Year



I'll see you on the Other side!!! Always, KJ

Thursday, September 23, 2010

Winning You With Words

Winning you with words, because I have no other way
I'd love to look into your face  
without your eyes turning away
-Gray or Blue by Jaymay

Wellllll...I'm still writing in this forum because I've still some kinks to smooth out with the new blog site. Today's essay will also be abbreviated, compared to previous entries, and I'm considering making Musings a twice weekly posting so as to keep the essays and Featured Royal Rebels manageable.  I inadvertently gave a sneak peek of Musings' new home today via Twatter, when it was nowhere near ready for unveiling. Nonetheless, in the four minute window of exposure, my dear @deedreamer16 peeked at it and left a warm comment. She rejoiced at the new layout, which was so very kind of her, so I guess it's a good sign that an unfinished product is already garnering positive feedback. Hopefully next week, Lovelies, the new site for Musings will be up and running in it's intended gloriousness. In the meantime, I'll still write a little blurb today because I've swirling ideas in my brain that may need to get out onto paper before I combust. Let's check in with our Other Queen for a minute so we can set the stage for today's topic. 

Ahh. There she is. 

Last week, as Team Other applauded Kristen's communication of desiring privacy without making a sound, Kristen's partner Rob went home to England for a much-needed, much deserved break. Of course, all sorts of sightings blossomed, and therefore rumors, and therefore "editorials" as well, as is the usual when Kristen and Rob are out of the public spotlight. One particularly Rob-"focused" site (which will not be mentioned by name nor linked from here) published an extremely condescending (towards their idol Rob!) article in the format of a letter indicating that Kristen is trying to meld to and assume Rob's life and identity. I cringed and held back the bile that was building in the back of my throat as I read through said public declaration. The author of the ridiculous article declared Kristen a "clinger" and accused her of trying to infiltrate Rob's life by honing in on the relationship with Rob's best friend TomStu (um, Kristen's On the Road costar), and not only after publicity, but also Rob's father Richard (as in, GET OFF MY DICK).  

Do I look impressed by you? You insult my choices,
 insult my family and trash my girl. I SEE YOU. You are no "fans" of mine.

 Words are weapons
So after I finished giggle-snorting through that article, I of course, glanced at the responding comments. HOLY BEJEEBUS, BATMAN!! At last count, the responses were approaching five hundred. And, much like the comments left on the joint Entertainment Weekly interview in which strongly Rob defended and supported Kristen, the comments on this vomitous post were incredibly sexist, crude, and disrespectful not only of Kristen (don't even get me started on the commenters' responses about her physical anatomy) but of the very man they are "obsessed" over and idolize--Rob!  And they were nearly all women. And again, we're not talking a measly handful of comments, there were hundreds. It's quite probable that Rob was talking about the people running and commenting on these types of websites when he refers to the "nerdy bloggers" who "hide behind their computers" and take no responsibility for their words or claims, regardless of how ludicrous they are. 

While this is hardly groundbreaking news, I still am grappling with the irresponsibility that is rampant and most likely a constant thorn in Kristen and Rob's lives. Do people not recognize the power of their words any more? In this time of technology overload, have folks forgotten the impact and effect words have on shaping a situation, or effecting a person/system? Is there no accountability left? 

One day? Rob will wear THIS shirt.
 Then what, Ladies??

A Psych 101 Moment
A modern development among psychology treatment theories, Narrative therapy has the goal of changing a problem-saturated story to reflect a preferred one. In basic terms, we create our own stories, and we choose to make them as positive and truthful as we'd prefer. Conversely, we can, with our own words and behaviors, write a story of negativity, victimization and tragedy. Narrative therapists (I employ Narrative techniques in my own practice) do not believe that people are what they are labeled.

Can you see how calling a person a name (labeling): i.e., BITCH, SLUT, MAN-WHORE, LOSER, UGLY can shape that person's ability to view themselves? A reminder: You only have to hear or see written words once before the words start permeating your subconscious. Think about it: If you hear or read enough criticisms about yourself, when do you start to believe them?? Internalize them? Fall prey to them? Accept them?? Luckily, our Queen of Other Kristen, is a strong and resilient woman. But even she isn't immune. She has admitted several times how criticisms and googled words have cut her. For those of you projecting criticisms, double standards, hate and nonsense onto two people who you most likely do not know, is this indicative that you act similarly in your personal lives too?? But towards or  around people you DO know, who may even be close to you? The people surrounding you may or may not look like this:


But I assure you, your harsh judgments and voracious regurgitation has power to do this:

that is one sad pumelo

The words written and carelessly splashed across the internet and tabloids, like in the article mentioned above, is an example of Words as Weapons. Fantastically (*sarcasm*) folks utilize mediums such as Twatter and Facebook to spread the venom as well, further and faster. Dear commenters and mods on sites supporting the bashing of Rob and Kristen: Do you ever wonder what such public spewage conveys about you? To someone who doesn't know you from Adam, even your "joking" comments ripping apart a twenty year old girl because of shorts she wears, or nervousness she exudes at public events tells magnitudes about your story. You don't want to be labeled, you say?

Stop fashioning your OWN WEAPONS. 
STOP HANDING OUT THE DESCRIPTORS FOR YOUR STORY. 

At the very least, cultivate awareness when you're in a public setting (especially Twitter, Facebook, highly-followed blogs)...where you are responsible for influencing hundreds and thousands of "followers" to mindlessly label and bash a young woman...This woman may be someone's sister, cousin, aunt, mother, girlfriend or daughter because you essentially gave permission to folks who admire you to act as you do. CHOOSE. YOUR. WORDS. WISELY.

Words are wealthy
Because I'm all about balance...Let's take a moment to witness some positive words about Kristen Stewart, our perpetually awkward but consistently genuine Royal Rebel, to counterbalance the weaponry hurled by the anonymous and seemingly spiteful blog commenters.

Actor William Hurt says:
"I’ve defended her in public as regularly as I can. I think it’s absurd, that they’re not giving her a break. I think that she’s holding her own, that she’s courageous, that she’s inventive, and that she’s got character oozing out of her, and I say, “Give her a break. Who is she to pander to your idea of what she’s supposed to be?”

Actor/Director Sean Penn says:
She is “A truth machine".  Mr. Penn, who cast her as a folk singer with a  serious infatuation in “Into the Wild,” said reports Kristen as “magically easy to direct,” adding, “She is a real force with terrific instincts.”

Legendary Actor Bruce Dern says:
"She is a one-of-a-kinder. She has a beautiful, knowledgeable face... a hauntedness. Look at Kristen Stewart: she is unique. There are maybe only two other actresses like her, and they're much older than Kristen."


A Musings Playlist:
Well, since I wasn't able to completely move Musings to the new website, I won't start the Other Soundtrack Giveaway til next week either. But I did want to let you know the playlist is forming beautifully, and I will post a few songs on the playlist below, so you have an idea of what the finalized copy will look like.

the devils tears:: angus and julia stone
           wave of mutilation:: pixies
not afraid:: eminem
addicted to love:: florence + the machine
wake up:: arcade fire
hallelujah:: jeff buckley
....and others


The Featured Rebel Royal segment will also be on hiatus again this week, but we will continue where we left off in learning about new Rebels next week. We will continue to defend and support the awkward, the left-of-center, the unique, the odd, and the extraordinary as long as the detractors and doubters remain out there too. My hope is that we're finding that there are more of us OTHERS out there than ever. *big grin*. Wishing Rob some restful recuperation time in London with his family. Wishing Kristen luck and strength as she wraps up her On the Road filming sequences this week. Wishing you all continued celebration and acceptance of your Otherness. See you next week. Always, KJ

Rob is Other.
Kristen is Other.
Others choose their words wisely.
Embrace your Other. 

Thursday, September 16, 2010

A Muselet Memo: Musical Giveaways & Communication, Mofos!

Well hello there, my Misfit Mayhem-makers, how have you been? I hope well, and happy and rested. Did I scare you off with my melt down last week? Was it unsettling for some of us who need a routine for normalcy? Musings posted on Friday and in two parts, concluding on Saturday. Wild, right? *smooths hand over your back to rub comfortingly*. I know. I'm all about thinking outside the box and spontaneity, but even I struggled with the wonky schedule last week, and I want to apologize to you. Between the two family emergencies and Blogger getting salty with me, I may have been ...uncouth. Well, as I've discussed in previous Musings, energy and The Universe has its way of communicating with us. Last Friday as I was wrestling with Blogger and dividing up the Wanderlust Musings post, I also was launching the website for the private practice. Oh and I was not sleeping a lot due being on standby for the family. So, I got sick. Really sick. Like, ask @Buff82 and @Bouffant how I was  constantly in tears and nearly catatonic. Yesterday was the first day where I didn't need to roll up in the fetal position to ward off the pain. Though I can't promise to stay away from cold meds today, you all know how I love me my cold meds. . . .


So due to the chaos of last week, I am releasing the first MUSELET MEMO today, because post-fever, I'm a smorgasbord of ideas and it's Thursday, our regular posting day, and I want to show some pretty pictures of Kristen, um, duh. Most importantly, I've missed you guys, so I crave the interaction. 

Guidelines for the following Musings Memo
1. It will be shorter than most of previous Musings (I know. You and Blogger are sighing in relief right now).
2.  It will consist of announcements regarding upcoming topics and Team Other Happenings.
3. It will encourage Reader participation. (I told you. I crave interaction with you all. You make my life with your feedback and comments.)
4. It will not feature a new Royal Rebel, though it will allude to potential FRR's in the approaching weeks. 
5. It will, however, always pay homage to the Reigning Ambassador of Other: The Stew.

Claro? Let's get our Muselet Memo on, kids!!
yessssssssss

Roadtrip Memories
Let's recap some Kristen-related news. After Bouffant's and my Musings last week regarding Rob's Road Trip towards Other Queen Kristen, he arrived safely with his Brit Boys TomStu (#TeamTommy FTW) and Sam Bradley in The Big Easy. Not that anyone saw them, but plenty of folks sure tried to produce manips indicating a sighting, with laughable results. But here's a manip/pic that I giggled over--as was the desired effect--for days upon first learning of the Road Trip, thanks to the brilliant @patronuska:

OICU Jella. Hang on tight, kitty!

Kristen is supposedly within days of wrapping as MarylouStew in on the road, as word on the street has her either finishing today....or working until Sept 26th. Regardless of whether or not she wraps today or in two weeks from now, it has been a pleasure witnessing the journey and transformation of our Other Queen from the Eclipse promo-ing, MTV Movie Award-winning, Oscar-buzz garnering twenty-year-old girl to the professional and esteemed actress portraying the iconic role of Marylou in the Walter Salles-directed film On the Road.  The film is already procuring early rave reviews and industry anticipation. Oh, and then there's the communicating. The nonverbal confirmations that I love so so much from our Royal Rebels. You may fondly recall:

media training? I don't think so!

Well. Yeah. Our Royal Rebels sure know how to multitask! *wipes tears of joy*. Communicating their solidarity as a couple, and also expressing exactly how they feel about the privacy-invaders, Vultures and overzealous "fans". . . in the same damn Beastie Boy t-shirt, made legend via Rob earlier this summer...Confirmed by Kristen yesterday, with such clarity and coolness, even the Coke Classic in her hand is envious. Yes,  she's wearing his shirt. As in, her man's shirt. 

If anyone has a right to wear this shirt, it's KStew

Upcoming Topics for Musings & Featured Royal Rebels
So the news on the Kristen (and Rob) front has been minimal, but that doesn't mean we don't have wonderful topics to contemplate and new Rebels from which we can gain infinite wisdom. While Kristen and Rob blaze trails and role model the very reasons why we adore our Other Warriors, I am constantly surveying the vast sea of candidates for Musings' next Featured Rebel. Some of you have written in and given suggestions, genius suggestions, which I studiously consider. You may have already seen your suggestion featured in previous essays. While I won't highlight a new Rebel today, I assure you, here are the names of a few folks we'll probably be locking smoldering gazes with in the approaching weeks:

JAVIER BARDEM...ZIYI ZHANG...ROBERT DOWNEY Jr...ZOE SALDANA....ELEANOR ROOSEVELT...STEVIE NICKS...JOSEPH GORDON-LEVITT...AMERICA FERRERA...EMMA STONE...XENE CERVENKA...DREW BARRYMORE...JAMES FRANCO...MARTIN STARR

Basically, the entire brilliant cast of Adventureland

And upcoming topics for the exceedingly clever Musings Readers to sink their eager teeth into: 

THE DIFFERENCE A YEAR MAKES...SHIFTING FILTERS OF PERCEPTION...JOSEPH CAMPBELL'S ARCHETYPES...DOING YOUR LIFE'S WORK...FAMILY GATHERINGS (INCLUDING EXES)...CREATIVE LIVING...JACK KEROUAC AND ON THE ROAD...

because just 3 years ago...
it was about a boy and a girl. 
Near impossible circumstances. 

We're Moving! 
No, we're not going to Hawaii (yet), as I had hoped, but give me time. This still could happen. The move I'm referring to now was  alluded to mid-sob in last week's A/N. Because Musings has deadlines, locquacious admins and jawp0rn-happy KJs, it has come to our attention that some hosts simply cannot handle what the Rebel Misfits dish out. Team Other is making preparations to transfer blog-hosts, leaving Blogger behind us. I have started tweaking with files and transferring archived Musings, and have tried to not hassle my beloved Buff anymore than necessary, since she has been off designing and prettifying my business's website along with KSIBTU (who is also exiting Blogger-ville). Hopefully next week, with a brand new Musings, we will be reporting from a brand new crib. Stay tuned, and hang with me, Rabble Rousers, because this is how we roll, and I really would love us to continue Rollin' with the Homies, ok?? 

K says: Chill out, KJ, you've rolled with me since at least 2007. 
The KStew Fandom is made of cool cats. We flow. 

Musings' Musical Madness Giveaway
And this is where reader participation is highly encouraged and welcomed. Also alluded to in last week's weepy A/N: The MusingsOnOther Soundtrack!! You all know what a music buff I am, and how it shapes all that I do for Musings. You also know, because I have a bit of a disclosure problem (and this is why I'm reining in giving out the website domain for the Magical Little Practice), I also am a back-burner musician. I have been playing classical piano since I was four years old, singing since I was five, and writing music since I was a pre-pubescent emo kid with frizzy hair and snaggle-teeth. Music informs my mood, beckons The Muse, and expresses beautifully what I can often not. A lot of the  Featured Rebel Others on Musings are musicians. And because mix-tapes were the epitome of love-declaring in the nineties and 00's while I grew up, I would like to declare my love to YOU. I am compiling a playlist of songs I've featured on Musings since June...These songs have inspired, provoked, encouraged and soothed me while writing each week's essay, and also have significance with the stories I've shared, and with the bios we've discovered in the Featured Rebels. Kristen and Rob are both musicians and demonstrate their exquisite taste and aptitude in music as often as they can (But why isn't I love Playing with Fire on The Runaways Soundtrack?!). *Oh, plus I'm pretty sure Kristen designed and arranged the soundtrack for Eclipse* 

To Review: The Musings On Other Soundtrack is composed of artists including (but not limited to):

TORI AMOS...RED HOT CHILI PEPPERS...INCUBUS...LAMB...JEFF BUCKLEY...EMINEM...THE SWELL SEASON...JENNY LEWIS...JACK JOHNSON...ANI DIFRANCO...MASSIVE ATTACK...FLORENCE + THE MACHINE...ROB PATTINSON...SUBLIME...PIXIES...

music.is.life.

Here's the delio: I wanna hear from you. I know you're there. I receive emails, tweets and some comments from you KStew Lovers and Other Rebels, and they rock my socks off. But there are more LURKERS than anything...Musings enjoys an incredible visitor tally averaging 1800-2000 each week. I know. It freaking BLOWS. MY. MIND. But you don't comment. But some of the hateful folks who actually don't read Musings  DO write me. They tell me how awful they think one of our Rebels is or, WORSE, how unworthy our Other Queen is (ah HELL to the NAH). So the haters have taken the time to leave their venom, but I want to hear the balancing Goodness from the OTHER REBELS and KSTEW supporters...

Because there are a gazillion of you. I'm finding you populating all corners of this beautiful planet of ours, and you somehow find me. So find each other here! Next week, I'll take all commenters' names and contact info and enter it into a raffle system that CC and/or Buff are going to have to guide me around, and give away 5 copies of the Musings On Other Queens Soundtrack. And to kick my own ass and remind me of my vow towards Creative Living, I plan to include one of my very own musical recordings on the Musings Soundtrack. (I just need to connect up with the right channels, i.e. ex-boyfriend/musical engineering genius). So dudes? Serio. I'm putting my own voice (literally) on the line here. I want to hear your voices too. You've all been embracing your Otherness with me on this journey...Let's make this a Convention of Otherness, shall we?? 

So start warming up now...Write me, Comment, Tweet (@MusingsOnOther), and tell me your thoughts on Kristen's Communication Skillz, on future topics of Musings, potential future Royal Rebels, and how you're embracing your Other.. Next week, the playlist will be shown and you're going in the Giveaway Drawing... Thanks for reading this Muselet Memo. I'll see you hopefully, from the new digs, next Thursday! As Always, Embrace your Other.  Many thanks & much love ,KJ

can you honestly say "no" to them? 

KJ is Other.
Kristen is Other.
Others are excellent Communicators...MoFos.
Embrace Your Other. 

Saturday, September 11, 2010

Thoughts Amongst Wanderers: Part 2

Misfit Musings on Wanderlust: KJ
I was going to respond point by point to B’s lovely and eloquent essay about the romanticism of road trips, and about what I think is Rob’s public (and quite clever) quest in declaring his affection for Kristen while also showing appreciation to fans. But quite honestly, Bouffant has an ability unlike my own to be succinct and still contemplative and impassioned. So I will leave it be. Originally, I planned to talk a little about some of my experiences traveling on the road, and tell you how my first road trip as an "adult" occurred when I was 18 years old. I had traveled many times with the family when I was younger, in the station wagon. Saw Yellowstone, bits of Colorado and Montana...But this was the first time it was my trip.
A girlfriend and I hopped into the car and made the infamous (and famous) drive from Los Angeles to San Francisco, split across a couple days. Clam chowder, breathtaking views of the Pacific Ocean, Cheetos, cigarettes and Johnny Cash's heartbreak were our companions...Not only was I a thirsty, insatiable girl, eager for adventure, but I desired clarity, and first-hand experience of moving towards unfamiliar territory, outside my usual comforts. So I had hoped touch upon Jung's Archetypes and shed some light on that insatiable thirst I spoke about...to maybe apply to Rob's journey towards his girl..
That's me. Taking a picture. Along the Carmel Coast.
In her book, The Hero Within, author and scholar Carol Pearson takes the basic tenants of Jung’s archetypes and helps readrs see how our "collective unconscious" informs and frames our current stories/patterns of behaviors. Carl Jung, the famous psychoanalyst and thinker, postulated that we humans are framed by and follow deep and abiding patterns, called Archetypes. Archetypes are found everywhere, in dreams, art, literature, and mythology…
Have I lost you?
Are you wandering around in this French Maze?
Let me try to focus a bit. Pearson dubs folks like me..and probably Rob and probably you my rabble rousers, as Wanderers. We're not always one with our Wanderer Archetype, plus we may actually visit this Archetypal stage several times in and out of transitions with different archetypes. 
Wanderers choose to leave behind the unknown and standard, for the unknown and the extraordinary. In other words...Wanderers, (rebels) choose Other. They are compelled towards adventure and journeying for clarification and first hand experience, which I believe Mr Pattinson and his bandit Britpack are currently in the midst of. I, a fellow wanderer and Other am stationed along the road cheering them on, personally.

I'm gonna ride it, all night long...





As I was saying, I was going to go into detail about roadtripping, Archetypes, and Wanderers. But then my beloved grandmother went in for an unexpected quadruple bypass surgery on Tuesday morning. My adored brother Chew went into the ER for an assessment of unexpected blood clotting yesterday, and this all occurred while I was trying to organize a business plan, website and sole proprietorship of the Magical Little Practice. Suffice to say, I dropped everything this week so I could address these urgent matters of my heart..of Family Other. I did not get to develop my thoughts as wholly as I would have liked. Bouffant, the Goddess she is, stepped in and wrote some of her Musings down. *Please refer to the beautiful, articulate and sensical first half of this essay. * Quite honestly, when it comes down to it: What is the biggest source and motivator of all? Why drive across country? Why drop everything you've had planned to rush to hospital bed-sides?









At least I formulated a response to B's beautiful Musings... I agree. This is the loudest NONVERBAL CONFIRMATION we may ever receive regarding Rob and Kristen’s private relationship. They both have consistently expressed their wishes to keep their personal lives and their relationship off the table. They also have both publicly expressed their affection and gratitude to their fans (perhaps not the clingy ones who make threats and rip off arm hair), and their disdain of the paparazzi and media outlets who aim to make a profit off of their likenesses, and their personal lives. The solution? A road trip, through the U.S.’s southern towns, where there is little chance of Vultures awaiting their arrival at off-the-beaten-path watering holes. Instead, kind and welcoming locals, greet the boys with their warm smiles and BBQ platters and opportunities for karaoke wishes to come true. And jam sessions with fiddle players?? COME THE FUCK ON?! How could you turn down that kind of opportunity? That sounds like a riotously good time to me! I have a feeling our Featured Rebel Royals this week would be fantastic Road Trip mates. 

An impromptu jam session in a Houston bar have never looked so pretty









Featured Rebel Royal: Carey Mulligan









The lovely Ms Mulligan is a 25 year old actress from London, England. A self admitted "Shy tomboy", Carey debuted her acting career in the beautiful film adaption of a favorite Austen Classic, Pride and Prejudice as Kitty when she was just eighteen years old. She confesses to having little interest in acting before she was 15 years old instead more compelled by academics and reporting being quite content to serve as audience to Broadway shows in New York, as her mother would encourage Carey and her siblings to appreciate art in all its incarnations. She saw her older brother Owain performing in a school play, a version of The King & I, and realized in that moment acting "is all I've ever wanted to do", her realization dawning when she felt devastation at not sharing the stage with her brother. In 2007, Carey garnered massive critical acclaim in portrayal of Nina in the play The Seagull, in which theater critics proclaimed her performance as "extraordinarily radiating" and "almost unbearably affecting". Pretty impressive accolades for a young Royal-in-Training sharing the stage with well known and prestigious actors such as Kristen Scott Thomas and Chiwetel Ejiofor. 
When Carey traveled with The Seagull to Broadway to reprise her role, she received a Drama Desk Award nomination for Best Actress. Looks like our shy tomboy caused a stir among her peers in 2007, but she had already filmed the seminal role as Jenny in The Education over a year earlier. 










In this movie Carey portrayed a precocious and impressionable 16-yr-old schoolgirl falling for the charms of a con man. With this role, Ms. Mulligan snagged the attention of the film world. This role also bestowed upon her critical acclaim and nominations from The Academy Awards, the Hollywood Foreign Press and the Screen Actors' Guild. She received the Best Actress BAFTA award on the same night that our Reigning Other Queen Kristen Stewart received her Orange Rising Star Award. 
Much like her fellow Rebel Queen Kristen, Carey exudes a refreshing vivacity that allows her to stand apart from her contemporaries, and even measure up to her predecessors. She emanates an effortless poise and grace (she has been likened to the incomparable Audrey Hepburn) while simultaneously remaining unaffected by the fame game and the burgeoning interest in her by the Hollywood Media Machine.








Again, like her peer and friend Queen Kristen, Carey prefers to keep her private life to herself, rarely if ever speaking about her relationship with actor Shia LeBeouf, whom she met when working with him in Wall Street: Money Never Sleeps, telling Vogue for their October issue on which Carey is the CoverGirl:
"Posing on the red carpet feels like you're selling something that has nothing to do with you. It's like we're saying 'Oh! We come as a pair! Would you like to buy both of us? We're available for weddings and Bar Mitzvahs!'"
Carey is devastatingly gifted in her craft, abundantly charming, but she carries herself in a way that is unassuming and humble. She defies all the antiquated standards prescribed to her by a surreal Hollywood. She has a great fondness for the show Glee (as do I), though when she wanted to do a cameo for the musical show, she was told she was "not famous enough". (And now Glee has slipped a little in my eyes). Undeterred, she continues to march to the Rebel beat in a variety of ways: preferring supportive film roles over lead roles; refusing participation in competition; denouncing adherence to the industry's perspective on body image. "I don't want to look like an actress; I want to look like a person!" She tells Vogue. Darling, you do. You look like a Royal Rebel kinda person, but a person all the same. And she has a new independent movie with Ryan Gosling and Christina Hendricks--two previously Featured Royal Rebels!!-- in the works. I say girlfriend is coasting brilliantly on her journey.








Offenses of Otherness:
*Refuses to sell herself or relationships as product
*Admittedly fears the idea of being "known"
*Prefers supporting roles to lead roles








Reigning Other Queen: Kristen Stewart








Meanwhile, back at the ranch...While Rob makes his way across the south toward his Other Queen, her majesty has maintained a rather low profile, which is exactly how she prefers it. She is in New Orleans, preparing for her scenes with the incomparably talented actors Viggo Mortensen, Amy Adams and Elizabeth Moss (from Mad Men). The last documented pictures of her boast my favorite Kristen candid that I’ve seen in a long while:








While our Queen is off being professional, dedicated and effortlessly sexy, a previously well-enough liked actor and former co-star of Ms Stewart did some apologizing. In an interview with director/writer Diablo Cody,  
Adam Brody implied that our humble, though often misunderstood Other Queen should quit acting ("here's the door") if she "moans all the time" about being a "celebrity" [which she doesn't, we all know this]. Of course, his less than flattering remarks triggered the Anti-Brody campaign and I can only imagine the badgering and backlash he received from Kristen fans (we tend to be locquacious and passionate in defense of our Stewie, legit), Adam issued an honest statement in response. "I sounded like an idiot...I sounded like a jackass...I sounded ungentlemanly." All the while, our girl is happily unaffected by her former co-star's unfavorable verbal vomit, because she is busy. Working. She is  an integral part of an already legendary film production, produced by the great Francis For Coppola, folks.  She is gathering an impressive bevy of colleagues and legends in her craft expressing admiration and praise for the "unique", "insanely gifted actress". Industry giants such as Sean Penn, Bruce Dern, Melissa Leo, Jody Foster and Sandra Bullock proclaim their fascination and compliments of  our Royal Rebel Kristen. And she has a fellow Wanderer, a Nomadic Trailblazer publicly driving across the country to spend some time with her. It's why she is Queen, everyone. Just so you know.









Offenses of Otherness:
*Refuses to sell herself or relationships as product
*Declines the label of being "celebrity"
*Chooses roles of broken, imperfect, flawed Wanderers

Because he and his boys hopped in a car to seek clarity, experience and perhaps give the most public verbalization of his devotion to Queen Kristen, Rob is in a suit and donning a crown on the Royal Float.
Because she doesn't let Glee determine whether she is truly famous enough, Carey is Rebel Royalty personified.
Because she is effortless, calm, poised and unaffected by a former colleague's misinformed verbiage, immersed in work she finds valuable and unique, Kristen is our Reigning Other Queen.








Carey is Other.
Kristen is Other.
Others are compelled towards adventures
of the Unknown and Extraordinary.
Embrace your Other.
Question: Tell me about your extraordinary compulsions. How have you "pulled a Rebel Rob" and hit the road seeking Adventure and Love?

A/N: Short one, for I'm exhausted. At the time of writing this, there was a house explosion and fire in my old neighborhood. Tweets, calls, texts came pouring in checking on me. It would have been a shitty shitty week if I had an exploding house too, but thank you so much for checking, my friends. THANK YOU. Family Other is ok. No more ICU stays or ER visits this week. I'm just home with yet another painful head cold. But I am blessed. 
**Sisters/Readers, Kathryn, ProRobsten, bouffant, Bellasmummy86, JolieJessa, Julie, Buff and CC: You Sustained me this week.**

MUSICAL A/N: Music is such an essential part of my life, as it is for Musings. I know each week I change the playlist, so we don't get a chance to revel in some of the fantastic songs placed on here for more than a week at a time. I'm compiling a MusingsOnOther Soundtrack and may include my own contribution, if I can get my hands on the proper permissions (the engineer/recorder is the only one who has an accessible copy). I'd like to give away copies of the Soundtrack once finalized, to readers/commenters. Should be available very soon. Keep checking back, mmmkay? 

HOUSEKEEPING A/N: Because I've had an increasingly difficult time with this current host: BLOGGER, I will most likely be moving. Stay tuned, as Team Other packs up and makes way to a new, easier, prettier web domain. Again, I'll keep you posted. 

As Always, you all are pretty freakin fantastic. I love hearing from you. Your emails, tweets, and comments make my life. Truly this is an incredible community. See you next week. Yours, KJ

Friday, September 10, 2010

Thoughts Amongst Wanderers: Part 1

LONG-ASS A/N BECAUSE IT'S NECESSARY. ADDENDUM: THIS POST IS DIVIDED INTO 2 PARTS. HERE IS PART ONE. BLOGGER IS GOING TO RUE THE DAY....
Hello, Rebellious Revelers! It's KJ here. Some of you know that I've had a tremendously challenging few days which included emergency bypass surgeries, ER visits, business license procedures and publication requirements to fulfill. I questioned on whether I'd be able to write Musings at all this week. But because the captains of Team Other have stepped up and gone above and beyond to support Musings and the independent little business I'm starting, I am able to post today. @Bouffant, my dear friend and regular guest-writer has anticipated my needing some help this week, and as a result, we're presenting to you a unique layout in today's edition: A K&B Collaboration. Big Ups and undying gratitude to B for her willingness to be my pinch hitter in this time of unrest and the eloquent results. Please take a moment and bow down to my Queen, @Buff_82 who not only designs and maintains Musings, but she possesses incredible patience for me and is in the midst of designing an insanely beautiful website for The Little Practice. Last, but of course, not least, I want to hug and kiss my soul sistah @CynicallyConvivial of KStew Is Better Than U, a proud Musings Affiliate, who not only inspires and keeps me laughing, but shows me how to move through challenges and junctions with grace and enthusiasm. New journeys are opening up for both of us, and it's incredibly thrilling. Plus she pre-reads my ramblings at 2AM if I ask her to with minimal complaining. After this essay, I'll make some notes about the music of Musings. Today's essay is for Gram Other, Chew, Puss and Monkey, my family.
We shall not cease from exploration
And the end of all our exploring
Will be to arrive where we started
And know the place for the first time
A condition of complete simplicity
...And all shall be well
~ T.S. Eliot
Road Trip Ruminations: Bouffant
A road trip is a quintessential coming-of-age American experience. The automobile. Why, we even build shrines to dead cars here...


The car may have been invented in Europe, but it was made for America. Rock & roll music, birthed in the USA, is made to be listened to while driving down the highway, or getting down in the back seat (Hmmm... remember bench seats...). When your family lives in New Jersey and Grandma lives in Kansas, you're not getting a plane ticket forChristmas, you're getting about 10 inches of space in the back seat and a comic book to read on the way... or, in my case, you and your brother will trade off bunking on the back seat and on the floor, while your dad stretches out in the front seat, on your way from Chicago to Denver for a wedding (Dad broke down and bought camping gear for the trip back). Just about everyone I know has done multiple multi-state road trips, with families or with friends.

The romance of the open road was used thematically in Kerouac's On The Road, written between 1949 and 1951. Reigning Other Queen Kristen Stewart has been on the road herself for the past couple of months, busy with the role of Mary Lou in the film adaption. She started with Beatnik Boot Camp (the coolest summer camp I've ever heard of) in Montreal, swung down to shoot in South America, and is now filming with the production in New Orleans. Presumably to prep for her role, fans heard that Kristen took a road trip of her own with some girlfriends a few months back, across the country from Los Angeles to Ohio, winding up at a Rob Zombie concert (now that's random).

News about the production has been less than forthcoming... frankly, I've given up on trying to figure out their plans. The obfuscation could be due to the indie nature of the production, without a budget for PR efforts during filming... or it could be Walter Salles' way of protecting the set and Kristen from over-zealous fans, allowing cast and crew to focus on their project without distractions. And who could blame them? That's what they're bring paid for, and they're taking their work seriously. And the benefit will ultimately be ours, when we see the finished product.
Please, ladies... the arm hairs need to stay
with the rest of that fine body.
*Kj waves* HI TOM!!
While Kristen/Mary Lou quietly works in the Big Easy, her Royal Consort Rob Pattinson is making a bit of a splash with his own road trip. In between jobs at present (we know of nothing until Breaking Dawn pre-production begins next month), Rob had been mostly undercover in LA recently, until news broke on Sunday of a Rob sighting in New Mexico, of all places, at a restaurant, ordering wine with friends. The restaurant employee confided that Rob was with friends on a road trip, and was on his way to New Orleans...
courtesy of @bragirl2 &; Twitpic

Then news broke retroactively that he'd been spotted in Mesa, Arizona on Saturday, and Monday evening was photographed at a Lubbock bar, hanging out with friends Sam Bradley and Tom Sturridge, drinking what looked to be whisky and beer and perusing a karaoke songlist.

Tweet from Santa Fe, NM:
OH MMMM GGGG (HAHA) ROBERT PATTISON IS IN SANTA FE AND EATING AT THE RESTAURANT I WORK AT

And fans all over the world pulled up Google maps and feverishly discussed whether Rob was REALLY going to NOLA, and if so, what route would he take and where he might stop next. The romance of a world-famous Brit taking off on a road trip through the Southwest with his buds captured the imagination of fans. Nevah understimate the power of Twitter and Facebook...and camera phones…

Tweet from Lubbock, TX:
Apparently Robert Pattinson just bought out the entire bar at Crickets. Yes, that Crickets. The Lubbock one. What a mindf**k.
May we take your order, Rob?

It's about 500 miles from London to the northern tip of Scotland. The islands of the United Kingdom would fit neatly into the state of Oregon. The British didn't grow up in a driving culture like we did. What they did grow up with were westerns, and rock & roll songs that make you feel like you have the pedal to the metal, cresting a hill with nothing but clear blue sky and open land as far as the eye can see.
Now, the Brit adored by Americans is roaming our magnificent Southwest with his BFFs... sightseeing, boozing, sampling local delicacies, showing us his love for America and endearing himself to us forevermore.

Earning new fans one town at a time.

There is so much goodness in this picture. No words.

Not only that, he and his compatriots (one of whom is actually IN On The Road), are very publicly making their way to Rob's very own Valley Girl, his American sweetheart and our Other Queen, Kristen Stewart. It's a parade from Los Angeles to New Orleans, with thousands of fans cheering him on to go get his girl.
*wistful Kj thoughts*
I'd drive across the continent for this girl too

There has been much drama surrounding these two Royal Rebels in the last couple of years. They have consistently deflected and avoided questions about their personal relationship. They clearly want a measure of privacy, and they deserve that. They owe us good performances in their films, a little promo now and then, and nothing more. The curiosity surrounding them is understandable, given the explosive chemistry evident between them onscreen and off. Not everyone has wanted to respect those boundaries they have asked for. Their attempts to ensure privacy have allowed for misunderstandings, eagerly pounced on and spun into wild fictions by some. Just recently, Rob and Kristen have appeared to be more comfortable allowing themselves to be seen as a happy couple, although the verbal embargo stands.


Methinks Rob Pattinson is a sucker for a poetic gesture... a true romantic. Do you see that he has found a way to publicly declare his love, without saying a word or even acknowledging his audience? He is making his way across half the country to claim his girl. The paparazzi who make money off his mug are hundreds of miles away. Instead, fan photos and tweets act as pushpins in a map to chart his progress. Rob and Kristen know we are watching. I hope they know our delight - both at following an abbreviated version of the Britpack on a real, old-fashioned American road trip, and in the anticipation of a Royal Rebel Reunion. This may be as public a statement as we will ever get from them about their relationship. It's beautiful, and more than enough.
~Bouffant

End of PART 1 Because Blogger is Being RIDONK Difficult. KJ's Misfit Musings on the Wanderlust, plus more on the Featured Rebel Royals will post Tomorrow. Perhaps Blogger can handle it then. But here's a look at our Lovely Rebel Queens, anyway. Because above all, it's really about Other Royalty is it not?

CAREY IS SO VERY

KRISTEN IS QUEEN


See you tomorrow, my Extraordinary friends...
xo, KJ